How to plan your
wait, What is eloping?
Okay, I know what you might be thinking, isn't that where you go off to vegas or Gretna green without telling a soul and secretly hitch? Yes, maybe, if we were in the 14th century. But just like the origins of weddings have evolved over the years, elopements have too.
Typically a wedding day is filled with hundreds of guests and has a very structured and traditional way about it, whereas elopements are more experience focused, intimate and relaxed. And yes, you can have friends and family with you, it doesn't have to be just you two!
what real couples really think about elopeing:
We knew if we had planned a big traditional wedding we would lose the magic of us.
Plus planning a day for hundreds of people filled us with dread and anxiety. Instead we rented the most amazing villa in Tulum, Mexico and eloped on the beach.
It was hands down the best moment of our lives.
George & Alex
We wanted a more relaxed and intimate wedding surrounded by those who really knew us.
People who had been there through our ups and downs, and you know, who really mattered to us most.
Having this perspective allowed us to create something truly unique and special to us.
Kathleen & Joe
Planning a big traddiontal wedding just wasn't us. We're not a traditional couple, so our day was always going to be about the things we loved. We eloped in Tuscany, under the stars in the vineyards in chianti and had the most unforgettable day with just our closest friends.
Layla & Dean
Eloping was the BEST decision we ever made. I wish we could have bottled up how it felt so that we could share it with other couples. We want you to know if you're feeling anxious about planning a big wedding, then don't do it! Theres a better, easier and more fun route, you won't regret it!
Hanh & Lina
Our elopement was amazing. We eloped in Utah in a small town called Moab. We stayed at Under Canvas which was amazing. We felt so removed from all of the chaos from our everyday lives, it was truly the most incredible experience of our lives and we would jump at the chance to elope again.
Dina & James
What is your dream ELOPEMENT day?
Do you long for peace and quite? Perhaps you both work in high pressure and stressful jobs, or perhaps you just enjoy the slower way of living? Elopements are the perfect alternative to a traditional wedding day and can be tailor made to you both. So for your first exercise I want you to both grab a pen and paper (yes, put down your phone and let's do some old fashioned writing instead of quickly opening up your notes on your phone). I want you to close your eyes for a just a few minutes and allow yourself to dream up your perfect day.
Many couples forget that a wedding day is a day designed for the two of you to enjoy, it really is as simple as that. So picture what it would be like and start with the 5 senses first to help you plan. Sight, Sound, Smell, Taste, and Touch. Where would your dream day be, is it in your home town or does it involve taking a plane or a boat ride to get to this destination?
What sounds can you hear? Perhaps it's just the birds or the ocean.
Whats the weather like? Can you feel the warm air on your skin or the snow beneath your feet. What can you smell? Is the scent of lavender all around you from the fields in the French province, or can you smell the fresh sea air?
What can you taste? Perhaps it's the sweet and refreshing taste of the wine, harvested in Chianti, surrounded by vineyards. Or perhaps it's the salt from the seafood spread made onboard your charter yacht.
What can you touch? Is it the rocky surface of the mountain we just climbed, or is it the tiny grands of sand passing through your toes as we stroll along the beach at sunset.
What is your dream day?
So now you have your vision for your day, you're going to need an awesome team of suppliers to help create this for you.
Typically when planning a traditional wedding you would look to book your venue first, but for elopements you can go ahead and reach out to your favourite planners and photographer right away. If your favourite photographer has photographed elopements before, its a given that they will be able to help you shortlist the dreamiest locations or venues to host your elopement.
Alternatively you can hire a planner right away to jump onboard and help to secure the right suppliers for your vision. Planners are amazing help if you're feeling too busy or overwhelmed with the planning process.
Hiring suppliers for your day should be a very personal decision only you two can make. When looking at their work, how does it make you feel? Will you enjoy working with this person/team? Make sure that they are the right people for your day and if you hire a planner they will ensure that is all taken care of for you.
TELLING YOUR FAMILY
We understand that speaking with your family about your plans to elope could be difficult which is why we're here to help.
Firstly, educate your family on what an elopement is, and why you think its right for you is the first step. Often families will think you're just going to run off the two of you but if you're planning on involving them, let them know!
These days more and more couples are deciding to have ditch the big traditional wedding and plan something smaller more and more intimate, if your family really know you, then they will understand completely and be excited for you to create your dream day.
5 easy steps to planning your dream elopement day
1. Find your why. Why do you want to elope?
2 Picture your dream day. Where is it? What are you doing? What does it feel like to be there?
3. Once you have your dream idea, take it to a planner who can help execute this wonderful vision of yours. Or hire a photographer who has some experience in helping coordinate a timeline and ideas with you.
4. Tell your friends and family your plans.
5. Enjoy your elopement day!